Women Who Make Dating DifficultWhat makes these scams so appalling is that they assume the identities of military personnel supposedly stationed in Iraq or Afghanistan. They troll internet dating sites and reel women along for months before springing the scam and asking for money. After writing about the Festus Smith fraud, he decided to leave a comment on this blog. Then I worked for the Military and later Got promotions becoming an Officer.. Notice anything interesting about those two comments, other than the terrible English spelling and grammar?
But she didn't know that yet. So much of this was new. It had been over two years since the death of her husband of 20 years; four, since she had lost her mother. Two sharp blows that had left her alone in her late 50s. The marriage had been troubled; he was abusive. His cancer took him swiftly, before she had time to process what was happening. After the funerala grief counselor told her to make no sudden changes in her life for at least a year, and she followed that advice.
Now she was all by herself in a house secluded at the end of a long gravel driveway. In the summer, when the trees leafed out, you couldn't even see the road or the neighbors. Amy didn't feel isolated.
She'd grown up here, in a conservative pocket of Virginia. Her brothers and their families lived nearby. When it came to meeting new people, however, her choices were limited. Friends urged her to try online dating. And, reluctantly, she did.
At first, she just tiptoed around the many dating sites, window-shopping in this peculiar new marketplace. The choices were overwhelming.
It wasn't until the fall that Amy was ready to dive in. The holidays were coming, and she didn't want to face them alone. She signed up for a six-month subscription to Match. She filled out a questionnaire and carefully crafted her profile. It would have been easy to burnish the truth, but she presented herself honestly, from her age 57 and hobbies "dancing, rock collecting" to her financial status "self sufficient". The picture — outdoor photo, big smile — was real, and recent.
And her pitch was straightforward:. Looking for a life partner … successful, spiritually minded, intelligent, good sense of humor, enjoys dancing and travelling.
No games! In those first weeks, she exchanged messages and a few calls with men, and even met some for coffee or lunch. But nothing clicked — either they weren't her type or they weren't exactly who they said they were.
This seemed to be one of the problems with online dating. She resolved to be pickier, only contacting men who were closely matched — 90 percent or more, as determined by the algorithm pulling the strings behind her online search. She didn't really understand how it worked. Back in college, she'd studied computer science and psychology, and she considered herself pretty tech-savvy.
She had a website for her business, was on Facebook, carried a smartphone. But who knew exactly how these online dating services worked? Then she saw this guy, the one with a mysterious profile name — darkandsugarclue. The photo showed a trim, silver-haired man of 61 with a salt-and-pepper beard and Wayfarer-style shades. He liked bluegrass music and lived an hour away.
More than a week went by with no answer. Then, this message appeared when she logged on to her account. How are you doing today? Thank you so much for the email and I am really sorry for the delay in reply, I don't come on here often, smiles I really like your profile and I like what I have gotten to know about you so far.
I would love to get to know you as you sound like a very interesting person plus you are beautiful. Tell me more about you. In fact it would be my pleasure if you wrote me at my email as I hardly come on here often. He gave a Yahoo email address and a name, Duane. Some of the other men she'd met on Match had also quickly offered personal email addresses, so Amy didn't sense anything unusual when she wrote back to the Yahoo address from her own account.
Plus, when she went back to look at darkandsugarclue's profile, it had disappeared. Your profile is no longer there — did you pull it? As I am recalling the information you shared intrigued me. I would like to know more about you.
Please email me with information about yourself and pictures so I can get to know you better. Duane wrote right back, a long message that sketched a peripatetic life — he described himself as a "computer systems analyst" from North Hollywood, California, who grew up in Manchester, England, and had lived in Virginia for only five months.
But much of the note consisted of flirty jokes "If I could be bottled I would be called 'eau de enigma' " and a detailed imaginary description of their first meeting:. It's 11 am when we arrive at the restaurant for brunch. The restaurant is a white painted weatherboard, simple but well-kept, set on the edge of a lake, separated from it by an expansive deck, dotted not packed with tables and comfortable chairs….
Amy was charmed — Duane was nothing like the local men she'd met so far. And she was full of questions, about him and about online dating in general. She also mentioned the deception she'd already encountered on previous dates — "lots of false advertising or 'bait and switch' folks," she wrote. I think it is always best to be whom we are and not mislead others.
By December 17, they had exchanged eight more emails. Duane suggested they both fill out questionnaires listing not only their favorite foods and hobbies but also personality quirks and financial status. Amy clicked on the link to the song, a torrid ballad that ends with the singer begging his lover to marry him. Then she rolled it back and listened to it again.
It's an ancient con. An impostor poses as a suitor, lures the victim into a romance, then loots his or her finances. In pre-digital times, romance scammers found their prey in the back pages of magazines, where fake personal ads snared vulnerable lonely hearts. But as financial crimes go, the love con was a rare breed, too time- and labor-intensive to carry out in large numbers.
It could take months or years of dedicated persuasion to pull off a single sting. That has changed. Technology has streamlined communication, given scammers powerful new tools of deceit and opened up a vast pool of potential victims. As of December1 in 10 American adults had used services such as Match. The mainstreaming of online dating is a revolution in progress, one that's blurring the boundaries between "real" and online relationships.
But the online-dating boom has also fueled an invisible epidemic. According to the Federal Trade Commission FTCcomplaints about impostor ploys such as the romance scam more than doubled between and And that figure is probably low, because many victims never report the crime — or even tell their closest friends and family members that it occurred. Shame, fear of ridicule and the victim's own denial enforce this contract of silence. The power of the romance scam — its ability to operate undetected and to beguile its victim into a kind of partnership — lies here, in the gulf between what the victim believes and what is actually happening.
Outside the scam, it's almost impossible to explain such irrational behavior. How on earth could you hand over your life savings to a stranger you met on the Internet, someone you've never even seen in real life?
When Amy talks about how she fell in love, she always mentions his voice. It was mesmerizing — musical, clipped, flecked with endearing Britishisms. His writing was like this, too — not just the British-style spellings of words such as "colour" and "favourite," but the way he dropped "sweetie" and "my dear" into every other sentence.
They exchanged numbers and began talking every day. His teenage years in Manchester explained the accent, but there was another sound in there, too, a wisp of something she couldn't place. They spoke of the things you talk about at the beginning of a relationship — hopes, dreams, plans for the future.
She opened up about her marriage, her grief, her work, her faith and her conviction that things happened for a reason. Amy had never met a man who was so passionately curious about her. And she was just as fascinated by Duane. Or was it Dwayne? In his early emails, the spelling seemed to switch. She found his LinkedIn profile — it was short, with just a few connections. There were other curiosities. Amy felt they were in some kind of time warp.
She would be fixing breakfast and he'd be talking about going out for the evening. He traveled a lot for his work, he said. Almost casually, he explained he was calling not from Virginia but from Malaysia, where he was finishing up a computer job. Looking back, would things have been different if he'd said he was in Nigeria? Amy knew all about those people who posed as Nigerian bankers and gulled victims with awkwardly phrased "business opportunities" over spam email.
But this was different; Amy loved to travel and knew lots of people from overseas. The fact that Dwayne was living in Malaysia added an exotic note to his "eau de enigma. Scam central: A former "Yahoo boy" shows how teams of con artists fleece victims from Internet cafes.
Born in neighboring Benin, he and his family moved to Nigeria during his childhood and went looking for opportunities in the emerging economic powerhouse of Africa's most populous nation. Instead, he found "the game" — Nigeria's shadow economy of scams, named for the article in the Nigerian criminal code that deals with fraud. Enitan is not the scammer Amy encountered in ; his fraud career ended inhe says.
Since he left scamming, he's spoken out against the practice. But based on his account, the fraud playbook he followed has not changed. He agreed to talk on the condition that he would not be identified by name. Typically, scams are advance-fee frauds — variations of the age-old "Spanish prisoner" gambit, which promises riches to unsuspecting strangers in exchange for a modest payment.
Sent first as printed letters, then as faxes and emails purporting to be from Nigerian officials, these offers are now part of Internet lore. Indeed, they're so well known that ers have adopted a more effective variation — mining dating sites for targets of romance scams.
Impostor scams can flourish wherever the Internet exists Eastern Europe and Russia are also hot spotsbut most dating fraud originates in Nigeria and Ghana, or in countries such as Malaysia and the U. In fast-developing parts of the world with high unemployment, a large percentage of English-speaking young men, and a postcolonial legacy of political instability and corruption, playing the game can be a tempting way out. That's when he drifted in with the legions of other young Nigerian men known as Yahoo Boys, named for their preference for free Yahoo.
"You certainly have a great sense of humor and a way with words," she responded. And she was full of questions, about him and about online dating in general. NOTE: FORMATS 1 – 5 ARE TO BE USED ON THE DATING SITE. 1. (IF YOU ARE THE . I'm talking about faith here cos when feelings are so powerful, it's as if.
He learned the con from an older mentor, and he, in turn, passed on his skills to younger friends. Enitan describes a three-stage model. Using stolen credit card numbers, the scammer would flood dating sites with fake profiles. Victims can be found anywhere — scammers also forage for connections on social media — but dating services provide the most fertile territory.
Profile photos are pirated from social media or other dating sites. To snare women, he'd pose as older men, financially secure and often in the military or in engineering professions. For male victims, he just needed a photo of an alluring younger woman: "Guys are easier to convince — they're a bit desperate for beautiful girls. All his victims, Enitan says, described themselves as divorced or widowed.
Ideally, the prospective victim makes the first move. Grooming the victim begins in the second stage. After learning everything he can about his target, he would launch a campaign of love notes and gifts. It feels like the universe is manifesting my perfect partner right before my very eyes. Prayers answered and yes it does seem like we have known each other a long time. Amy wrote that seven days after receiving the first message from Dwayne.
They were on the phone for hours every day at this point. His was the first voice she heard in the morning, and the last before bed. Typically, Amy would talk and text with him until about 11 a. Around 8 p. In their emails, they filled pages with minutiae about their lives — her upcoming holiday trip to Sarasota, Florida, with a girlfriend; his visit to a textile museum in Kuala Lumpur. Mixed amid this were Dwayne's increasingly ardent declarations of affection:. Last night, in my dreams, I saw you on the pier.
The wind was blowing through your hair, and your eyes held the fading sunlight. Florid passages like that did not spring from Dwayne's imagination.
He cribbed them from the Internet. Still, on Amy those words cast a powerful spell. That's how she thinks of it now — it was like a switch flicked in her head. She'd been in love before. But this was different, a kind of manic euphoria.
Are you real? Will you appear someday. Or are you just a beautiful, exotic dream … if you are … I don't want to wake up! At the core of every romance scam is the relationship itself, a fiction so improbable that most of us initially marvel in disbelief: How do you fall in love — really fall in love — with someone you never meet?
Until the term "catfishing" crept into the vernacular, love affairs with digital impostors were little-known phenomena. The term comes from the documentary film Catfishabout a man with a girlfriend who, we learn, does not exist; it later inspired an MTV series.
Pretending to be someone else online is a social media parlor game among some young people. But Amy had never seen the show or heard the term; she had no idea the practice was so common. Computer-mediated relationships, she says, can be "hyperpersonal — more strong and intimate than physical relationships.
Research has shown that certain personality types are particularly vulnerable to romance scams. Unsurprisingly, age is a factor: Not only are older victims more likely to lose larger sums of money, there's evidence that our ability to detect deception declines with age.
But when she surveyed scam victims in the U. These people tended to describe themselves as romantics and risk takers, believers in fate and destiny. Many, like Amy, were survivors of abusive relationships. Women were actually slightly less likely to be scammed than men — but were far more likely to report and talk about it.
The other term that Amy would later learn is "love bombing. In both situations, the victim's defenses are broken down by exhaustion, social isolation and an overwhelming amount of attention. Amy would later describe the feeling as akin to being brainwashed.
This is the painstaking grooming process that Enitan calls "taking the brain. When she came home from her trip to Florida over the holidays, Amy found a bouquet of flowers waiting for her, and a note:. Not long after this, slightly less than a month since his first contact, Dwayne brought up his money troubles. But some components he purchased from Hong Kong were stuck in customs. He didn't need money, he assured her — he had a hefty trust fund in the U.
But he couldn't use his funds to cover the customs fees. What to do. I my name is Lily I am scammed by this person too. Does he say he is a opedidic surgeon from the us army and is on a peach mission in Syria.
Does he have a 13 yes old son named David. Has he asked to marry you like he has me. Did he make you go on hangouts so he can talk to you. Do you have a solider named marcus withers in Afghanistan. Hi Lisa, This sounds a lot like the girl I met on Tinder. She said she is in the Navy stationed in Nigeria. We only talked for 4 days and she tried to ask me for money twice.
She asked me for a cell phone too so she can also video chat with me. When I said no, she played it cool knowing that I had doubts so she then started talking about herself and I have to admit, she was good at sweet talking and making herself sound real. She send me all these photos of her. Good luck to you and your brother. I met a guy called James Johnson through a online gay dating app called Surge. He said he is working in US military. By the time he said he was in Nigeria. Then he made this whole scenario and convinced me to send him money for his plane tickets.
I was too late when I realised I was scammed. Anyway I sent money through western union to a woman called Clara Adele. This name and woman should be real, otherwise she cannot receive money.
This guy sent me photos of a US military guy. One of the photos, I clearly sea Johnson in his uniform and in another photo, name was little bit blur but it says Johnson. He also sent me a photo of his plane ticket which named to James Johnson but later I found out that it is a fake photo. He called me several times a day and he had an American accent. I also talked with this woman called Clara Adele. I think they are working together. And this happened to me last week.
My advise is, be careful with online dating. Well I learned a very good lesson. Yours sincerely………… Email: Kabulcamp yandex. I got msged from a major Jackson Barry Raymond who says he is in syria and will b back In March He asked for NO money and that he is there for peace making sent me many pics.
I asked him to send me his army military email. Only United nations email. Which is a gmail addresse. He said he was stationed at Camp Navajo, in Flagstaff, Az. After a week or so of getting a bunch of excuses, I called Camp Navajo. Contacted JAG, and met 2 other victins online. I would like to ask if anyone has other names or Facebook profiles for this guy.
I believe he has other profile names, since he only had a few friends following his page. HIS M. Good morning…. I was just in communication with a guy named john burke this last week…. He said he was in camp irwin going to camp arifjan. Deployed 2 days ago. He asked me to send i tunes cards… I did. I have a really bad feeling about this because he said he was gonna transfer me money and i gave him my bank account info. Should i go close my account? I feel stupid right now. He was using all the words and language u were talking about… He left pictures and info on the telegram site.
I havent let him know that i think its a scam.
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It is definitely a scam. Do not send anymore iTunes cards. This is a way to get money from you without asking for it. Close your account immediately. I hope you still have money left. Advice from a me, a 57 year old woman only trying to help you. Such a sweet talker widow wife killed in horrible accident. One son blah blah. Wanted me to get him a cell phone and he would pay me back when he got state side. He almost had me.
Just curious, what did he look like? I met a guy on Facebook going by name Johnny Greene smith he will be 40 on 10th October I ask him questions but he says he tell me everything when he comes to see me. He asks me no questions about my life.
His wife and son were killed 4 years ago He has Facebook profile. Not sure if this is a scam or genuine please help. My mom recently found this guy who says his name is Carlos Martines and works in Baghdad as an Orthopedic surgeon. My mom is madly inlobe with him and he claims to be inlove with her aswell.
He told her that he will be travelling to SA tomorrow in order to meet with her but has asked her to make a hotel reservation for him.
This is most definitely a scam. Do not spend the money. There are special forces in nigeria correct? After being in relationship with Wilson for seven years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused.
I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back. My husband called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much.
I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the fake ones out there.
Anybody could need the help of this spell caster, his email: adodalovespelltemple gmail. This man said is name is Jake Ryan. He send me photos but I had a doubt and surched on the net. I realize that he abused photos of Peter Pace. A real American General chief of the high quarter in US army. And I know that he always use the same photos to scam women. I have the proof just look on the website of scamsurvivors Please all of you be careful.
Can you take a look is there is a man named Paul Anderson hughey? He said he is actually in Kabul and asked for ticket fee. Never has asked for money or gifts but when I asked to send a care package the address is: Mark Flores Ijesha Road Ijshatedo Lagos, Nigeria I want to make sure this guy is legit.
Are there real USA troops in Africa? That is not true. We do have American troops in Africa. We constantly have US aide in Dijibouti Africa. There may not be troops in Nigeria, but to say they are not in Africa is ill-informed. Has anyone ever heard of a man named Christian Lauria Martin, he said he is a captain in the army and is stationed in Iraq. My mom has been talking to him for almost a year now and he said he wants to send her money because shes on a tight budget.
Shes been sending money to someone named Franklyn Odim Chidi in nigeria to claim this money and i think she is being scammed but she wont believe me.
The place thats supposedly sending the money has sent her pictures of a credit card and a cashiers check to prove its real and i have researched the bank thats supposedly sending it and its a real bank but all of the people she talks to use gmail accounts. If its a bank shouldnt they use an official bank email address? She wont ask the guy to send her email on his military email because she doesnt want him thinking she doesnt trust him.
So its a scam right? Tell her to reach any army office and find upt like I did. I am sorry to say but I think I am being scammed. I am chatting to a guy who says he is gay and wants to marry me and he says he is a captain in the us army.
He says he has an adopted son in Africa somewhere and asked me to send some money to him and then i had a thought to google him and i cam up with a different name but same person as he has sent me some pics and they are the same as the person i have found. But how do i find out if they both are. And yes i am gay and they both say they are gay and want to marry me. Just had a military man hit me up on Meetme.
We been talking for alil over a week now. He chats with me alot on Kik as Frank Graham Gray, what caught my attention was the way he put his words, and that he loved me and wanted to be his wife, Im like no one can say they love u in 2 days of just talking. I have not conversed with this Sam Williams Rico guy. Just noticed the difference. Last night I asked him for his email so I could write him, and he said he didnt know he have to ask his commander. I just want to know the real Graham Frank or Frank Graham, I have pics of this person whom I can send to youjust need to know where to send them of these this man and another man whos says he was Graham Frank also, then switched to Sam Williams Rico.
Hes a hard one to crack. Still havent heard from FB on this Graham Frank…I tried every tactic possible that I know to call him out but like I stated before he is one hard one to crack. Just gotta do alot of investigating!! Good Luck!! Says his name is Gen.
Anthony Silvas 30, has a 9 yr old child and that his wife died a year ago. However, when he uploaded a picture about America the geotag said Nigeria.
Something felt wrong about it so I googled his name, and this site came and there it is with the same exact story with just a different name. OMG the same thing is happening to me but this person calles himself John Martinez I told him about sending me email he said is not allowed and he needs to ask commander after that he got so out radge.
And mad I told him until you show me proof. A guy names Charlie Jordan contacted me through Match. He says he stationed in Afghanistan and has a son named William at Westminster, a prestigious and very expensive private school in Atlanta, and IMPOSSIble for anyone without serious connections to get in.
He asked if he could ship his belongings to my house. I said not to send his stuff to my house, but now he does have my address. He too told me both his parents died. He has no family, and his wife died in a car accident six years ago leaving him with a young son. He told me he was stationed in Kabul. His horrendously bad grammar and spelling definitely was outside the norm.
I teach English and it was shocking. Be on the lookout! I just fell victim to this via a scam with a person I met on tinder. They use the American name Arthur O. Taylor, and currently have a Facebook profile with this name I am trying to get taken down, but the flagging is being overlooked because they are very crafty at the scam they are running.
I met him on tinder, at that time he said he was a 23 year member of the US Army, stationed in central California. Here is the info I was able to gather:. I have been texting a man calling himself Dr William Franklyn. He call me honey sunshine you my love want to marry me. Nothing he says checks out. We met on fb. He goes by Jeff Duval. Stationed in Afghanistan says he is in US Army.Why Ms. Independent Can't Find Mr. Right - Annie White - TEDxWilmingtonWomen
Will show some on messenger. Definitely asks for money. Also Loves me and calls me his Wife. Anyone else heard of him. He talks sweet and kind, says he lost his wife 2 years ago and has a son age 10…sent several pictures, rank, etc seemed to check out, no facebook page, etc. I started chatting via Messenger to a Donald G Anderson.
Said he was from Pittsburgh. Widowed 3yrs, wife died in car crash. Nanny looking after them. Beautiful messages from him saying he loved me etc. Asked me to marrry him without him ever seeing my photo. Said he was using military scanner to chat with me as cell phones and laptops not permitted. Poor English grammar. Sent me photos of himself and the children I fell madly in love eithh this guy. Never asked for money but said he was unable to access his money as Taliban had barred all bank transactions.
When I said I had noyjing to offer him he started being funny. Would not answer any questions I asked him. I called him a fake and it ended. I have reported him to Facebook and his profile has gone. Elaine, I have just barred a guy called Roland Miller, who sent mee a friend request on fb.
Told me hr was. His wife had died in childbirth, and he had no other family. His dad died when her was 7, and he then lived an uncle, who died of.
A blood disease. He joined the military, as he had no one, in the hope that her would fund love and friendship. His son Randy, was all hr had in the world, and he. Was receiving schooling guana.
The alarm bell was raised yesterday, when he came out with story, that he had a call from sons head mistress, to say that son, v ill, and needs urgent operation, as he has skin disease, and they cant treat him, till they get paid.
He asked me to please help him, and that if I loved him, please save his son. When I told hun, I had no savings, he askeed me to borrow money from my friends.
I told him that my friends had no savings either. Then hr asked me to get a bank loan. All this occured within a time prior of 4 days! I went on to Google, typed his name, dateline scammers, and guess what? Hi I have been recently contacted by a first sgt Michael miller in the US army — he has not asked me for money and I have told him straight that I have nothing to give and will not be funding anything ever.
He says he cannot video call me as cameras etc are not permitted where he is but he can speak to me via whatsap! Have you heard of this before?? Easy way to spot a scammer. Sgt Linda Riggs riggslinda11 gmail. Provided as a contact number. Wearing an Airborne unit emblem. When I asked what his job was he said monitoring the camp. He disconnected when I told him I had a nephew in Kabul. Ladies ask questions, I accepted the friend request because I recognized the name and thought I knew him.
Needless to say I was able to run him off, he will think twice before doing this again. He said he is a widow and has a nanny to help his failing mother care for his 8 year old son and she is threatening to leave them stranded if not paid by tomorrow. I did not send any money to him. Look out for these names as well. He has a Facebook page with the same pics he had on Tinder.
Does anyone knows Johnson Moore; staff army based in Syria, peacekeeping? He is from Dallas Texas. We supposed to meet nov.
They asked me for money for the delivery tag, money laundering cert so they can send the luggages to my address, They keep asking money from me.
Moore instructed me to email bolt express to send back his luggages but they asked money for the diplomat to bring the luggages back to syria.
Does anyone knows Johnson Moorestaff army based in syria, peacekeeping mission. From Dallas texas? I reported all of this to the police. How can I report someone. How do these people get so many pictures? This is just horrible. Also loves me and wants to marry me. Widowed with 11yo son. Pics very handsome.
Messages me through hangouts also. Has this name come up? I had same thing happening to me he goes by Robin Smith aka iceburgrobin he told me he has no family in USA and in Kabul aufg. He is head of watching camp and video tapes missions after week he loves me wants to retire and help me raise kids.
Plz help. Im sadly believe im a victim of a scammer too i met him on Lovoo we talked a little bit and he added me in FB that account has gone now he sended me a email with this adress captain.
Those are fake email address and not military ones, for sure. He says he lives in Scottsdale Arizona. Be careful with a Sargent Scott Adam from U. Station in Syria?? Ladies beware. Let me make it clear, I was writing to a so call, person so he said his was station in sybira, patrolling. A Sargent by the name Scott Adan middle name so he said John? Has a kid 15yrs old, his wife die of Brest cancer?
I would believe he knows how to write English?? To him? He would call me, but I never answered.
He send me a picture very handsome man n his kid. Wrong move, I did but it was an old picture of me, but still. Hi, I have been having conversations since 7th October with a Col. He said he is 51 years old and sent me his pic. That was a red flag for me so I researched the bank. He told me to email my information to the bank and was asking me every two minutes if I did it already, that too was a red flag for me.
I eventually told him I did not email the bank yet because I was trying to research the bank. He then got upset and said I was acting like a little child and we are not compatible.
I then told him a piece of my mind to let him know he was acting as one of the scammers amongst other things. I went back on his facebook page a couple days after and the page was nowhere to be found. That confirmed that I was correct. I had my head on but there are other females out there that are so vulnerable and would be caught in their web. I emailed him my thoughts after and realized that he did not block it. The email address is garyhoward yahoo.
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Mayb the authorities can look into it. These people need to be stopped. I am He said he is 51 years old and sent me his pic. He also said his wife was from the Caribbean like me but she died 4 years ago of cancer. He has not had a relationship since the death of his late wife but he is ready now to move on. He has no children. He even sent me pics of them. He said we would build or buy a house in the Caribbean if I want and we would live where ever I want.
Another red flag for me was that his facebook page had no friends and about 5 or 6 pics of himself. We never could communicate other than facebook messenger. I never heard his voice. His excuse was that because they r in Afghanistan they have blocked these other mediums because of security reasons.
The thing is he never asked me for money he wanted to send money to me. I started to second guess myself.
He wanted me to open an account at his bank so that he can transfer the money easily to my account. This sounds easy right but when I would have opened the account he obviously would get my information without him asking me directly.
This now would be money laundering. They think they are so smart. These punks need to be stopped now before they destroy innocent young lives. I too had an encounter. With Gary Howard, just like you said, he wanted to send me money, and I became very disturbed and decided to check him out when I came upon this article, very useful. I blocked him immediately and he vanished. Women beware of Tony Hubbert also. He has asked for money.
Asked me to open an acct for him to send money. Has a daughter, wife died at the time 2 years ago. He is from UK. On FB with photo. Too bad! I talked to a guy USArmy in Kabul peacekeeping. Uses Pattickyoung as username on hangout. NO Go etc etc any one heard of him? Now wants me to gget a credit card and he will tell me what to do with it. I to hav beentalking to a james blakely…says he is in the army…in Afghanistan he also had 5 other identities all in the service…little did he know im no fool….
He too says he is at forthood. Says he is in charge of bombs. Missiles aircraft and more. If I send in his name and pic will it be in confidence. We talk in facebook everyday. Never ask for money. We just talk. Says he is being deployed this week to Africa for peace patrol. This is a scam. Do you have a 2nd Lt. But Dominic nicknamed Billy still working in Kabul,Afghanistan? So what about now. No one from ft hood going to nigeria I read different things on it since Obama leaving and trump starting.
That you have sent some people out there to train their armies recently. Asking for money to see me in the USA and to see his son. Who knows where. I saw the red flags from day one… his spelling was odd, but the picture was great. He tenido contaco con un marin de usa con el nombre de Mark Edison pulicando fotos de el en su perfil sin contactos declarandome su amor hace dos dias me pedia todos mis datos segun el lo iban a mover de kabul a kandhara al sur de alfagistan y segun el me queria enviar su dinero porque no podia llevarlo con el para cuando el viniera a mexico porque segun el se casaria conmigo y checando en google las fotos son del General de U.
Army Mark Milley siendo una gran mentira. Jones also. Lives in Lubbock ,tx but from Dallas,Tx. US Army he says. His wife died and he lives with two kids and his mother. Yes I have heard of him. We have been talking for about a year. He sayes I am his wife. Yes he has 2 children a boy 10 girl 7 lives with his mom in Lubbocks, Tex. Was from Dallas. He was talking to others I know. Truthfull I do not know asked for money to help him. Currently working in johannesburg S Africa an, Romaniaan Egypt in construction his dads business.
I have confronted him several times. About things told by others. Gets mad sayes no way not him. His picxs an such someone stole.
Too many descrepencies in things. He want discuss past. He left S. Today at pm. Did not show. I got 3 other tickets always something happened never got here. He retired from Army in Personally I do not know what to think any more. Im suspecting that the name Leonard Christensen is a fraud.
He started asking money from me to send to moneygram or western union to help her daughter Bella Christensen,he said Bella and her nanny mrs.
Kesiena Eyanu also called Mrs. Jayden been stranded in UK. Kindly trace if this is also scam. Have someone talking to me and she asked me to request form for leave at department defnce gmail.
Has anyone heard of a Cole Dias? Adan Dias? He found my mother on Badoo online dating site. He also says that he has a 9 year old son named Tyler. Can someone please help to find out the truth. So I can help my mom know the truth. He also has two different Facebook pages and never has added my mother. I will send you an email through the email address you used on this post. I have been talking. No a man named michael wagner.
Hi… met a guy online. Michael Keith. Says he is In Agadez.
Is hes scam? I was contacted on facebook by someone claiming to be staff sgt. Pic showed a young good looking guy laughing,holding a beer…wearing fatigues. I was asked to be a Facebook friend of a guy named Billy Andrew in Kabul Afghanistan says he has a son in Miami Florida wife died of cancer 5 years ago. Son lives with nanny, was only son of single mom now deceased.
Is he a scammer? There is a guy who calls himself Paul Percy who is trying to scam my Aunt for money. I think he did send a fraudulent check to her account then withdrew thousands from her account and now the bank has identified that check and name as fake so she now owes her bank thousands of dollars.
He goes by the name of Paul Percy and his supposed phone number is and his supposed email address is paulpercy00 gmail. Be careful of these people, she is now living a nightmare because of this guy who claimed to be US Army.
Unfortunately, you just lost 5, Peter Yamson. Ghana Amrylife1 gmail and the new email is Trustlove2u gmail. Some are so desperate to find love, that they ignore warning signs, in a hopeful exchange of a possibility of being in love. Note: I used male pronouns here, but scammers can be either gender and can present themselves however they wish online :. Vague profile. Start with what is stated on the Internet site.
Scammers often are not specific in what they are looking for in a mate. Thus, more people will respond and fit their requirements. When making contact with you, scammers start by complementing you on your looks. He loves you, sight unseen. Charlatans tell you they love you before they have ever met you in real life. Think about it: How do you know if there is real charisma there? How can someone honestly love you before having met you in person?
Too much, too fast. Going offline. There is a reason scammers wish for you to contact them directly via private email and not use messaging available through the dating site. Avoiding questions. Him answering with questions to your specific questions is a sign of a scammer as he is not giving you an answer.
Playing phone games. Remember, there are a number of services where you can get a phone number with almost any prefix. Also, if he is supposedly overseas on a trip, and he gives you his foreign number and says call any time, it is more likely his real number. Another indication that a scam may be going down is when there is a distance between where you both live. This is a great test: Ask to meet soon after the introduction on the Internet.
Most people who earn a decent living wish to be wanted for who they are, not for their income. In other words, he is really wishing to find out if you are worth his time to scam, as you have financial resources to share. Think about your friendships—do they ask you about your financials?
His photos are fake. Ask him to send you a picture of himself via snail mail. Do a Google Image search to see if his photo shows up on stock photo sites or catalogs. Notice the background in the pictures posted online. Are they indicating that they are wealthy? Does it show a big house, a new boat, or something else that yells wealth?
Again, people who have real wealth do not advertise it. Did the person go to a boat dock and simply stand in front of a great looking boat and have his picture taken? Did he ask a Realtor to show him an expensive house and then have his picture taken at the house? Be suspicious of pictures taken outdoors. One of the more popular scams is to pretend to be a resident who has either recently moved to the States in the last two years, or who is in the process of moving here. Once overseas, something horrible happens that leaves him broke or close to broke—his money got stolen from the hotel, the taxi driver stole it, the airlines forced him to check his luggage and his money was in it.
Whatever the reason, a smart person, or one who travels, knows better than to let it occur. He asks you for a temporary loan. Think about this. Why you? How much money is being requested? Is the amount of money being requested realistic for the situation described? Be aware that the person may ask that you send money via DHL, or another global service to a name, other than his or her own. Either way, do you really want to get involved with this person? Ask yourself how desperate are you for a relationship?
Scammers count on that desperation. Control by guilt. Most people are basically good people and want to help. So, if you start to get suspicious and ask if this is a scam, he will most often get mad and attempt to make you feel guilty. Then, he must create a new heartfelt situation that requires you to send money.
He uses lovely speech. He writes letters filled with love, as if the letters were written right out of a romantic novel. Listen to how often flattery is used. He just met you, so how can he give honest flattery? In addition to the warning signs abobe, here are some of the commonalties among scammers. Remember, they have a plethora of these, but not necessarily all of these traits. In summary, be smart about dating on the Internet.
Romance scams: Love scam formats. what was your may motive of join the Dating Site? And how long have you been on the dating site? I have a strong faith in God and would want someone with the same belief. realtorscommercial.com News ? ??YAHOO FORMAT FOR DATING? You have found a perfect person on the internet! But is this really someone with good. You can download the military dating format to bill your clients. You will also learn about the military format and the military format letter. Click.
Constantly ask yourself, how desperate are you? I believe I am a victim of a scrammer Gray Taylor claiming to be in the military as a ltd.
Said that his son is in broading school in ghana. That he was retiring in a month or so. I was ask to send money via western union y o a Peter Hanson in ghana.
He even sent a military ID to gain my trust. Send me a copy to cj cjgrisham. Yes, this is a scam. What will happen is that money will be deposited and you will withdraw as he asked to send to him, then the deposit will eventually come back as a fraud and you will be on the hook for all the money. The money is stolen from other accounts and you basically became the launderer for the illegal money.
I received an E-mail from someone naming himself Bowen Gordon. That got me directly to this website. Thank you for that. But I am still a bit confused over where he got my email address. Any Ideas? I need your help, I met this man by the name of Jasen Ramos. He had pictures of himself on social media in which he stated to me that he had to take it down. He had pictures of him. We met back in May of and have been talking ever since, his wife is deceased and has a two year old daughter by the name of Angel.
I need to know if this is for real please help me!! Army stationed in Afghanistan? Anyone else been contacted by him? He is asking for money for a flight home from deployment to visit family. He also wants internet money and a cell phone. Anyone heard of a Curtis Walker from Daytona beach Fl, asking for money for a leave 1, to be sent western union to a Kellie Hofstetter in Michigan, claims she is a agent for the military, please need help with this.
Army soldiers do not pay a fee when they submit their leave requests. They simply fill out a form and email it in to a supervisor. You should end all contact with this thieving jerk. I had the same problem his name is Curtis Siegel. As for leave money to come from Gaza said he got shot I informed him after talking for months my dad was in the army now passed away u not getting any funds. Leave is leave I will have to go back. Not stay in the USA If u was really hurt that bad there is tri care.
All military has it. As well as there dependence the would of send u home. Like I said I was hit in the chest. In hospital 3 weeks why are u not send home Blocked him from. Messanger He goes by a lot of. NamesNamed even send him the pics of him being a scammer. He gave up. Never heard from him again Also posted all his Scam pics next to his pics and the one he send me on Facebook. I just scammed by a guy which has been told he is from Military of US, and now having a war in syria, and he want me to keep a package and sent it to my address and want me to help him to look after it.
Luckily I found out it earlier but unluckily i alredy sent USD to this guy. He called himself Rogers Mason, and he sent me a lot of his picture, but not belongs to him. Margaret I am in UK. He Claims to be a captain deployed in middle east. His English is ok not great but his vocabulary is not American. Please let me know if you know this man He has an gmail account Margaret.
Most of these romance scammers are from Nigeria and Ghana. Does that make any sense to you? Does that mean single soldiers are not allowed to go on leave?
In any case, you should cut all ties with this guy. Apparently, these scammers have moved on to the gay dating sites now. I got very suspicious when I got messages from three Army guys in Afghanistan, on the same site, on the same day. I have asked each to send me e-mail from their Army e-mail address and have not yet received one. Fortunately, I have a suspicious nature and immediately started Googling for these types of scams. And one more thing……anyone can send a pic they say is them, try googling pics of military men or something similar.
Amazing how many options there are, all you need to do is download it and send to someone saying its you. Simple and way to easy. Open your eyes, dont think with your heart! It saddens me to see so many people who seem so nice and wanting to believe the best in others.
Remember if it seems to good to be true, usually is. Our military personnel do not have time to email, call, or whatever daily. I can understand wanting to help, try sending a care package to a troop. Just write a letter to someone for encouragement and thank them for what they do. These cockroach scammers have nothing better to do then to discover new ways to scam and collect info on anything they need to do scams and ways to get people to believe they are being honest.
If you really feel a need to give money to someone you have never seen or met, try giving that money to a homeless organization or a vet program of some kind. Hand a homeless person a lunch you bought them.
Dont look for love online, too many out there with nothing better to do then find their next victim. Take care and to all the military troops, words cannot express how thankful I am for all that you have and will do for us. Stay safe out there, much respect and love. Robert Patterson found me on Experience Project and asked if we could communicate via kik messenger because it is easier for him since he is a US army guy in Syria. Sent me a pic of him in uniform in a helicopter.
He says he has been in service for 20 years, has a 15 year old son in Bronx, NY.
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I became suspicious because his grammar is really, really bad. He has not asked for anything, it has only been 2 days of kik messaging. I asked if we could just email instead. But no comment with regards that. The U. You should cut all ties from this guy. Thomas Dunn, bomb specialist, wife died from breast cancer 3 years ago, etc. Have to love google!
I am lecturer, a geographer, and have lots of my students and many other people as facebook contacts. Sometimes they just want to visit Poland and ask some questions about this and that. A few days ago I have added a guy named Gibson Smith who claims to be an American soldier in a military camp in Kabu, Afghanistan. He is in a patrol team, says he provides food and medical care for refugees.
What was really funny to me, he expressed very quickly that he is my best friend. I would punch him in the face right away.
He obviously began to lose the threads. He send me an e-mail with pics rather a very poor quality, so you can miss all the important details — his address is: militarycamp google. No asking about the money by now, but his English is quite bad for an educated man mine is not good either, to be true, but enough to recognize someone who is not a native speaker for sure. I asked him about his military e-mail — the one with mil on the end of the address.
No response yet. He is a scammer! Please, ladies and guys sometimes beware of such criminals! We all respect the hard work of soldiers around the world, do not let fraudsters slander their good name!