Dating Multiple Women at the Same Time - aka The Rotation #1From being nice to children and the elderly, to detailed sexual desires I wouldn't let anyone read, I didn't hold back. This list was sacred. And here I was, after so many years, looking at that list again when it dawned on me that my most recent ex had almost everything on the list -- except one thing. Well you know what? It still didn't work. It wasn't enough. Armed with my new mandate and ready to move on, I started to date men again.
This is same guy from day one. His work stress was taking a toll on him, he started staying out late drinking drinking is fine, heck I drink too. I could see the dysfunction, he was using it to cope with the work load.
He found another hobby to relive stress…gym lol. Decided that leaving New York city was the best thing for him, as environment affects you.
He called up from London at the visit with his stressful clients. He came to AZ almost every two weeks, loved his son not biological not that you would know:. He took actions, moved to be with us, and now will be working from home while we both work on our own start up entity. I think he felt what life was like without us and now knows he would rather have his family than a NYC hot roller life lol.
Giving him space drew him close and gave him time to address his own fears yes, he still had those. Mmmmm… not sure if we will ever have that in a sense. We both know we will get married on the beach In a year or so. Kat, he just purchased us a beautiful home, who needs a ring lol. Katarina, thank you for that journey of exploring of self, the relationship I hold with me and the stories I held to be true.
Your teachings has changed me for life. You can now listen to her miraculous story straight from her mouth here.
Have you read my book yet? And sign up for my upcoming new cycles of Journey Inward and Leaning Back workshop Mia is signing up as well so you can learn from her direct. Image credit Deposit Photo! I am dating someone fir two months. We decided to be exclusive.
I ibpnitiated it if corse and he agreed. We now dare once per week he does live an he and a half away. He texts every two days n recently went away on Friday and have hit heard from him yet n it us Sunday. Thinking that may hit be right.
He has been in touch with me every day and I have been responding. He says he has said he has set up counselling and will sort everything out. Am I doing the right thing? Should I start a rotation while he figures stuff out? I was feeling anxious before the split as the divorce was dragging on and I felt insecure coz II felt him pull away.
Yes, start a rotation. Give him space to sort himself out. Should I bring it up at all? What should I say if he asks and he will why I want to start seeing him again? Thank you! I agreed, he spent the night and we both acted like nothing happened. He said he missed me. He texted once 3 days ago to wish me happy holiday. Advice, Katarina? Do we allow men who we are genuinely not interested in to be in the rotation if they keep coming back?
Great read! How do we get back in touch? I have tried a few days ago to go back to the crime scene by a text kind and sweet like honey but still no word from his end. We had a pretty messy break up.
He had claimed me but was still seeing other women on the side so we both kind of broke up in a heated moment and now I am left completely confused. Thanks for the amazing coaching on here. Wait till he reaches out to you and he will.
What Rotational Dating Is And What It's Not. RD is the most powerful way for women to find their soulmate. RD is NOT cheating or having. How many times have we gone to a party, found ourselves really attracted to someone, and swore that we would do something about it?. Know what will win him over? Hint: It's not loyalty. We bust every argument against women playing the field and dating multiple men.
You need to work on yourself so you become less reactive and as cool as a cucumber like most of my successful clients. To practice in the beginning, yeah why not go out on first or second date with them? HI Kat! Love your book! I am currently being pursued by a guy that comes across super gay in his instagram pics mostly all naked or border line and another that is heaps unnatractive to me.
Do you suggest to date these men and start my rotation with them? I am freshly single so just want to try the rotation but man! I get the idea behind rotation and it makes sense. And while getting attention from other guys is flattering, it is hard to feel the same way towards all of them and so I end up getting disappointed anyway if the guy who I liked the most did not like me back.
Then even if the other guys do like me—they can keep me distracted but only for a little bit. Also, I have a problem with guys dating multiple women. I know it is unrealistic to expect a guy to like Only me but somehow I get very turned off by guys who flirt with a lot of women and ask all of them out and keep them rotating.
I want to feel special and love it when a guy shows interest in me over and above all other women. Like being zeroed in at a party and asked out. Someone it makes me feel like his attraction to be is not all that special even if we are just exploring and getting to know each other. That is fine. But I do not like being part of a rotation. Therefore, it seems only fair that I do not keep guys on rotation and take one at a time.
Buying the car for you????? Never thought my method worked that well! Should charge you more for the class lol… Man, when will I get a car? I took exclusivity off the table, he did not entertain itthat was Sunday.
Dating multiple people at once isn't just for dudes anymore. We explore the potential Do You Need A Dating Rotation? Caitlin Thornton. The 5 Guy Guide OR How to Find "The One" By Dating Five People at the Same Time . STEP 3: Start Dating Your Team in Rotation. After taking a year off from dating, I recently started getting back into the dating game. I had an active dating life before my dating fast but.
Monday he called wanting to know if I really like the car we were looking at and before i could answer him he said I am buying that car for you.
I hope you are ok with that. Think about this, if you meet a drug dealer today and he is so into you, however if type of lifestyle is not attractive, that man will repel you!! When I met my guy, my life of 6 years was falling apart, including hubby absconding with our son to force me into submission! Gosh i was unfulfilled and ask for the separation but I did not expect him to take our son and wanting to move back to Wisconsin!! I was hurt, in pain and I felt alone!!
He was there and he got it and he showed up, and the sex was the best I ever had!! You know I was always the good girl, living up what was expected of me!!
My sisters were in shock that I accepted this and was ok with it him sleeping with other and i would be in this type of relationship I did not want a relationship I was just getting out of one! And we talked about our lives all the fucking time, why we stayed that long or why we ever chose that life partner!
I was connected to him through my pain I was not going anywhere, no matter how my sisters would say his time is up, next. What happen to our Alpha sister!!
I loved his alpha ways, as he made all the decision, and I was in a cab and showed up! However I knew I needed to deal with my pain, so it never turns into anger, and hence I did what I need to do. Every Thursday and Friday I was in that chair letting out and loving it!
When Katarina Phang me to the group and I intimidate sign up for Journey Inwardsthere was a session on Anger and I reflected on my ex all I felt for him was compassion and I was so happy to again confirm no suppressed emotions towards him!
I gave up control and being so darn controlling shit with my ex I would have a say all darn time in what he chooses to wear! One might have done you something to cause you to feel pain, but looking for them to fix it will never happen!! Do I love this man, oh yes I do! He might not be perfect but who is, he might not fess up the second he was asked but he is always honest. From day one he has always treated me like a lady and things i found out was from me searching, was this due to me at the time looking to feel validated, prove him a liar when it was not necessary and wanting to control the relationship as my feelings for him grew and i got way too invested, when he never asked!
I know it and he knows it!
When I think about it being able to not blow up, and to have the sort of communication we had last Sunday night, is how i want to live a life with any man! Knowing the right way to talk with your mate and not making them feel wrong as they know when they are in the wrong, is awesome!!
So while thought I knew myself and I do. He makes him want to give me everything I need. Lean back and take the focus off him when he reaches talked with him and be receptive. Update: Being brutally honest here!! Also want to make this short too!
I returned stayed feminine and finally accepted the idea of dating rotation which I guess sent off a different aura/vibe to me!!” Mia found me. I call this “Circular Dating.” You keep your rotation of men going while staying grounded and centered. When a man can't take you for granted because he sees . All of the men who you interact with make up your “rotation of men.” Whether it's via phone, email, social media, online dating or just.
Is this woman nuts, then I must get out here, cause I surely am ready to explode! Then Tricia had the nerve to tell me that it could be his way to cope with the idea of giving himself again!! I was like this is just a mess!! That was me projecting his behavior as being reflective that I was not this great lady for him, what could he possibly be doing but looking to cheat!!
Surely I was upset that he did not honor his word by deactivating his profiles! However I knew from the start that the idea of giving his heart again scared the shit out of him! To think that once be became exclusive those fears were left behind is simply not realistic! So this is my take away: 1 That I can trust Kat trust builds sorry!!Successful Med School Relationships
Thanks hon and for everyone that entertained my venting that precious day!! When they know that you are in control over your own emotions it makes that much comfortable expressing theirs.
During our last class on Sat Kat suggested not bring up the issue first allow him to. Surely I agreed and again thought you was nuts. To get a rise out of him…yes I think they call that manipulation. His response was I will fill his role until you can, which is did a fantastic job. Sunday night we were in bed and he turns to me and said. Then he confirmed what I thought that Monday night he was out with someone. So I asked him if he was or has been sexually active he said no and I guess for him it was important to note that he did not meet the person online!
He was saying he is sorry and I told him there is no need to be. At times you feel we might be ready for something and once we are in it we might realize that maybe we are just not ready.
He was in shock by my response! Told me is happy with me and I truly do make him happy and he is not sure why is being trapped by fear. Today being with my son and I makes him feel like he could really have it all this time. I allow him to lead and let him be the man. He knows he is not perfect and he loves me for being patient with him. He truly wants to make me happy and provide the things I need and then he asked me if I desire to get married and have more children or if I would be ok with not being married and having children.
Then he asks my time frame…I told him I did not have any. Then he asks in an ideal world what I would want. I said my son is 30 months old in an ideal world I would love to have another one before he is 5. It's not nuclear science. I want to be treated like I'm the only one too. It's good that you want that, and it's not wrong to want that, however, it's not up to you that he treats you as the only one.
You can't control him. You can only reward and mirror him, meaning if he wants to be exclusive with you and treat you as a girlfriend then you can say yes to his offer.
It's not always easy to handle a dating rotation, that is for sure. You will have moments where you second guess yourself when you date.
If he doesn't and barely communicates with you between the once-a-week or every-other-week dates, how can he deserve all your attention? And again, what's the point of over focus? Giving your full attention when you're with them is more than enough and let the chips fall where they may after that. You should go back to your life after, instead of obsessing about him which, again, is why you have this pining energy that turns men off. In fact, my clients' guys step up even more when they sniff competition, when they no longer put all their eggs in one basket and act like a doormat.
How To Handle a Dating Rotation With Grace
It's true that a guy doesn't want you to date others when he's actively investing time and energy and has already fallen for you. You will know beyond a shadow of a doubt when a guy wants you to himself.
Until then, act single. Honor yourself and your allegiance to yourself, first and foremost. Be easy to lose and keep him on his toes. My boyfriend was very fast to claim me with his energy so I didn't have much chance to date others. He booked practically all my free time. When I asked him why he pursued me so hard, he said, "Because if I don't, some other guy would. You see, guys know what to do all right. If he sees a woman as the prize, he'll lock her down.
Those who don't, it's only because they don't want to or could care less about you seeing other guys for whatever reason not that into you or not ready. When you believe in your own desirability and value as a woman who doesn't just give away her options and loyaltyhe will too! And that very attitude will inspire him to step up his game if he's into you enough. And only by his active investment in you and the relationship, can he fall in love with you and connect to you emotionally.
That won't happen when you are way ahead of him. Dating situations are rarely black and white like that. Some guys wait a while for whatever reason before asking you out again on a second or subsequent date. And if you like him, it's hard to just sit around twiddling your thumbs waiting for him to ask you out. So just put him out of your mind and go out on a few first dates with others.
Imagine how many three weeks will you waste if you keep doing this? You'll be picking out your wedding dress, getting yourself busy and occupied just because you are madly attracted to one guy. That will be a kiss of death to your courtship. You want all the flexibility you can manage, and mind you, it's not a sin since you are a single woman! Don't let anyone get you into this guilt trip for taking care of and nurturing yourself without an apology. The only way you can successfully lean back is when you keep in mind that he doesn't owe you anything.
And the only way you can maintain that mindset is when you are not bound to him unnecessarily. You are as free as he is to do what you want. And another thing to remember is, do you know what the exclusivity trap is?