I'M IN LOVE WITH A POTHEAD - ADVICEIt's always hard to know when a person is giving you information because they care about you or because they just like to gossip. So talk to your friend a little more. How does she know this guy's into pot? Did she see him smoking? Did she hear about it from someone else?
I smoke weed every day, at least 10 times a day.
For me, I'm more myself when I'm high—more honest and real with my partner—so smoking weed is my greatest joy. But when I would get stoned, my partner would always look at me with slight irritation and annoyance.
My constant weed use would always lead to fights about it, like, Are you high right now? Do you ever get nervous? It was like a bad Drake song. My partner would also feel bad because I would want to smoke before sex and she felt like I couldn't be sober. I think I need to be in a relationship with someone who smokes weed so we can be happy and on the same level. I've been in flings where both my partner and I have both smoked and it's nice—but we also both spend our money on weed and bongs, and we're always late and stoned.
Still, it's blissful, so maybe I can only date a version of myself with whom it's okay to be a fuck-up. I think it's impossible for me to date someone who doesn't want to get high with me. When my girlfriend and I first met, we smoked considerably less weed. Last year, she moved to New York from Europe, so while she was first getting acquainted with NYC we were way more active and out a lot. Now we both smoke more than ever. All winter we got into the habit of chain-smoking spliffs from the time we're home from work to the time we're KO'ed.
My girlfriend also smokes a lot more than she used to because she almost entirely stopped drinking shortly after we met. She started getting brutal hangovers even if she had a single glass of wine, and alcohol would make her break out in a light rash. We both suspect she may be allergic to alcohol.
Like anything, it's not black or white, though I greatly prefer a partner who smokes over past relationships where I'd be ripping cannons and my then-partner s wouldn't understand why I'd be up super late reading weird shit and mumbling about dessert nachos.
The pros of being with someone who smokes is that I rarely smoke alone; my girlfriend and I can take turns rolling joints and buying weed; and it has definitely reaffirmed the feeling that my current partner truly likes me for me. I consistently act as stoned and weird and myself as humanly possible around my girlfriend, and she adores me nonetheless.
Smoking is also like a ritual of empathy for us. My girlfriend, for example, has been anxiously waiting to find out if her visa application is approved and my way of showing that I'm sensitive to her stress is by a rolling up a joint. And sometimes we'll smoke when we have sex. I remember one time she was smoking a joint while I was going down on her, and she said something along the lines of, This is how couples should smoke together. I remember blowing smoke on her clitoris while she came.
Kinda hot! The most noticeable con is that we enable one another to smoke incessantly. If one of us is smoking, be it a joint or a cigarette, the other will inevitably share it, regardless if we wanted to smoke. As a result, we often smoke way too much on any given night, which then leads to bad choices like staying up super late, eating super late, and then sleeping in super late together if we don't have somewhere to be in the morning.
Lately, both of us have been talking about cutting down because new work projects kicked in for both of us, the cold is ending, and we're sick of feeling groggy in the morning. The issue is that when one person is being "noble" or making an effort to abstain, the other person isn't feeling it, and we both end up smoking.
We encourage a feedback flower loop, and smoking less will be a real challenge for us. I think my girlfriend would have an easier time developing her own community and life in the city that's separate from the one I've built over the past eight years if she smoked less.
She's pretty new to both the US and New York, so I sometimes worry she's not putting herself out there and making her own friends and connections enough.
Once she hears about her visa, I think it'd be healthy for her to go out on her own and do her own thing. If she can do it and continue smoking, then rad. My partner used to smoke weed—he says he was addicted.
It was really hard for him to quit. He tried to quit several times throughout this life. So right when I met him, he had probably not been smoking for a little under a year. For him, it was a big deal not to smoke.
I smoked quite a bit—I would regularly have weed in my home, I would often smoke late at night while I was watching TV, or when I was out with friends. Not being able to smoke around him was a little strange to navigate at first. With other people that I've dated, smoking weed together was an assumed thing that we would do. This dynamic was new for me.
The hardest thing for me, especially early on, would be when he would come over and my roommates would be home, smoking. They would offer me some and I would have to decline. Or we would be at a party and someone would offer me a joint.
Think about it: Guys are great, weed is phenomenal and when you There is a big difference between a guy who occasionally smokes a bowl. While a lot of annoying stereotypes point to stoners dating non-stoners leading to a smoking pile of unhappiness, plenty of relationships flourish. You can't tell me weed isn't addictive when I have seen it with my own eyes. serious denial about the issue before, but I was not about to be the girl dating a drug addict. I've seen him smoke before coaching a 9 am game.
Immediately what I would want to say is, Of coursebut since he was around I would feel self-conscious. I didn't want him to feel alienated or make things difficult for him. So I wouldn't smoke in situations where I normally would. When I would decide to smoke around him, he would let me know that it wasn't necessarily cool. I think he just didn't want to be in a situation where everyone was smoking but him. I sympathized with that, but I didn't like feeling guilty or concerned about whether or not I should be smoking.
It was hard in the beginning, but I didn't want to encourage any kind of relapse for him. There was a lot at stake.
Add that to the list of things you and your guy have in common. Date night can mean a casual smoke session and Chinese food. This sounds great, but make. Still, it's blissful, so maybe I can only date a version of myself with in a relationship with someone who smokes weed so we can be happy and. Let's get some things straight. He smokes cannabis. You say "a lot" and "all the time," but that is unlikely. He might smoke it every day, but.
That would just be so shitty. I definitely would never smoke when it is just him and myself. I prefer not being stoned with him, anyway. I mean, I love being stoned with friends, but I mostly just become an idiot.
I'm a better version of myself when I'm generally sober. My partner and I have been together for three years now.
Dating a guy who smokes pot
So at this point my default is to not smoke, and I'm super grateful about that. Before I met my partner, I didn't really have a reason not to smoke weed. If it was around I would smoke.
Now I realize I would just rather not smoke weed. Sometimes I will have a joint in my backyard if I'm just having a "me" day or if I'm at a social gathering and my partner's not there.
There's a guy I like and I think he likes me, too. I want to date him, but a friend told me he's into pot. I don't agree with much of the comments on here. If you hate the smell or something, I can understand that. However you say you're for. Back to the point: weed is a dating deal breaker. it appears that being accepting of smokers makes you more open to dating someone who is.
But I think my partner is no longer so afraid relapsing. He doesn't really crave weed anymore and if he's around it he does okay.
He thinks that maybe he could one day smoke again without going back into his old patterns. He's not there yet, but he thinks it's possible. If we're still together for another three years we might share a joint, and that would be wild.
I don't even know if I would want that. The most weed-friendly city for singles? Cleveland, Ohio.Avoid Women That Smoke Weed - Don't Date A Pot Head - 4/20 day (Advice For Men)
In the WhatsYourPrice. It is the blue grass state, after all, so our stoner couples might all be there.
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It does it all. Weed can have an amazing affect on your sex life. Mitch Earleywine tells Elite Daily that "that CB1 receptor seems to be involved in improved tactile sensations and general euphoria" and there are some anecdotal reports of marijuana being linked to longer orgasms.
And if that isn't enough of a reason to give it a try I think that's a reason to give it a try. It's not just silly stuff. When it comes to serious relationship issues, like domestic violence, smoking marijuana may help. A study of couples by the University of Buffalo found there was less domestic violence in couples where at least one partner smoke marijuana, and the lowest were both did.
If you don't like the idea of smoking upthere are other ways for weed to help your sex life. Cannabis lube exists. It's a thing.