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And I can pretend I am not a nervous wreck the whole freaking time I am at parties. MY advice - be flexible and learn to adapt to social situations. I know it's hard but you know it's a part of life that we hermits really hate - socializing. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Additional giveaways are planned. Detailed information about all U.
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I agree that we introverts need to put ourselves out there in a way that makes sense to us. For me, going out means having a conversation with friends at a coffee shop instead of going to a loud club. Thank you so much for your bravery in sharing your story.
I prefer to be on my own company much of the time. I left my hermitage! I finally came to the realization wished it would of happened alot sooner that this is who I am and make peace with it even though its hard with societal pressures that make you feel that being the life of the party is the only way to be. But I made myself join an online dating site and did meet someone very nice that understands my need for space and gives it to me when needed.
Hope you find the same and thanks for this. Like you I prefer being on my own more and more as I get older -even as our life becomes more and more social due to changes at work. Revelation came on the day when new love and I admitted to each other that neither of us liked going to parties very much- it makes for easy New Years now!
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Just another non-shy introvert chiming in to say that I feel exactly the same way! I met my husband online through random chat on ICQ over a decade ago! And, honestly, I cannot imagine how hard it would be to meet someone in person these days. Best wishes to you :. Hi Susannah, Thank you so much for writing this post : it resonated with me very much. I struggle with feeling fundamentally flawed as well with my introversion. I struggle to find a balance between what is isolating behavior and what is peaceful solitude.
I am in a period where some of my female friendships have shifted and drifted and I need to make new connections — it is hard and scary, much like dating. I met a fantastic guy through online dating. Who likes just hanging out at home, going for long drives, and just a lot of one-on-one plus both our kids time. Susannah — I hope you will write about your dating adventures as you try it. Thank you for writing this. I think as I get older, I am happy being alone with my thoughts, my reading, being in the garden or with my dogs and husband and less at big social events.
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I am an extravert but my age is showing me this is what I most want now. Thank you for writing this lovely post. Susannah, Your honest and real perspective is always a delight to read. I, too, am: an introvert, single at 42, 5 years post-divorce and pretty wary of the dating world. Could it be time for me to jump in? Maybe Thanks. A friend of mine had a similar situation a few years back. Then he decided to try what he called An Anti-Hermit Initiative.
I used to be an extrovert, party and go out all the time, but since I maried a lovely Introvert, I start enjoying the time at home, just snugging, reading and drinking coffee at home, we used to go out for dinner to restaurants, but this year, we started cooking at home good barbicue and now we enjoy more the food we do ourselfs, even our dog gets good bones ; and we enjoy more our talks and not just getting distracted buy the noice or other things that distract you from a restaurant… not to mention the quality of the food and the saving of the big price on a nice restaurant ….
I took your place at blogshop back in march, remember? Anyway, I love this article and like some of the other comments, I feel like I could have written this. I love your blog and I look forward to more posts. I relate to this post so, so much.Meet the Hermits @ Minecon Earth 2018! [Meetup Info]
My friends used to give me so much grief for being a homebody and I thought there was something wrong with me and that I had to force myself to go out or risk losing everyone who was important to me.
I am an artist and I really enjoy my time alone: it allows me to think and create and just be myself. I think that I am almost exactly the opposite.
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Then I went to Uni and I changed. The only social life I have is via the internet thank the gods for the internet. Personally I feel that most people need a balance of both, though it varies greatly between people to what balance will work for them. I completely get this. Have a beautiful day, Susannah. I so much needed this today. Thank you so much, Susannah! I always felt guilty feeling comfortable as a hermit myself.
I love this so much. Now, at last, I am at peace with my cozy, hermity self, and — thank heavens!! Wishing you a cozy man like that too. Sending a hermit-ey high-five across the pond. Like so many people here, I totally get you. I love your blog and this is a great post. We had some drag out fights making our terms with each other.
I just find one person to talk to and go from there. Also, since he realizes that being out with a bunch of folks can be draining for me, he is genuinely thankful when I do go. Susannah, I am in the exact same position in fact tonight I have my first date via online dating and whilst it is the right thing to do I am inside secretly freaking out.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on that, Susannah! So thank you for this little reminder and enjoy your dating time! Reading this post was like a lightbulb going on in my head. For years and years I felt that not being able to enjoy myself when I was out, my avoidance of parties and nights out was a sign of a mental health issue. I am just me. I am someone who loves to socialise during the day, a long lunch with a group of people sounds great but once it is evening I like to be home, and cosy and feeling relaxed.
Thank you. As a widow and introvert myself who works from home and has a young child it is so hard to put yourself out there. But I applaud you for pushing the limits and trying.
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Put good vibes out there and something wonderful is sure to come back — even if just in the vein of new good friends. Thank you for writing this post! You hit the nail on the head. I am an introvert but like you, can be quite gregarious in certain circumstances. I will always choose spending NYE in a warm bath with candles, some good music and a bottle of champagne over a big party, some things will never change.
I think I may be an ambivert. In college, I was convinced I was an extrovert but now I am not so sure. I used to think in high school it was because I was depressed. I feel like I am just following my heart and doing what I enjoy.
Is this a phase? I wonder. Was being extroverted a phase? Am I both? But I am accepting this instead of forcing myself to be social. And for the most part, I am quite content. For now anyway. This post completely sums up how I feel about my own life.
I am SO good at being in my own company taking photos, thinking and writing etc. But I also love people and am longing to find the Right One. And as Ive gotten older I enjoy time by myself…Ive been thru the whole marriage thing 26years …have 3 kids and 2 grand-kids…but alas my ex is a violent alcoholic…both physically and emotionally.
Well, from the opposite side…I am in love with a shy guy who became depressed and, in introverted fashion, totally withdrew from his friends and family, and then eventually from me.
He is now a near-hermit. Like you guys say about yourselves, he was lovely in company — and very open with me. I guess I had thought that he was as open with others as he was with me. After talking to many people post-bust-up and silence, it struck me that I must have been very special to him, because I learned that I really was the one person he let into his life.
He seemed to be totally content with little social interaction with anyone, just small talk, although he certainly missed me the times I went away. It is very hard to be extroverted and try to understand how someone can become so totally withdrawn. I miss him, and have not found a way to bring him back out of his shell yet. I hope I can some day. Barbara Sinclair Oh, Susannah! Be true to yourself.
Alessa Did I just write this post or did you? FayLynn I know just how you feel. And what is it about New Years Eve?? We have not solved that one yet. Kirsty I too have just reached that aha moment after reading one of your earlier posts and following a few links. Victoria Smith Bravo, Susannah!
Alicia I thought something was wrong with me too, until I read more about extroverts and introverts. Heather I can totally relate to this! Us introverts rock! Dana Barbieri I have to laugh as I could of written big chunks of that myself.
Justine Susannah — thank you so much for sharing! Christine Girl, get yourself out there!